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The Holidays

As we clean out the last of the Turkey and trimmings from the fridge, I find myself getting a bit pensive about this time of year. While it`s a joyous time for many with gift buying, family visiting, and joy spreading, it can be a very dark time for anyone who has experienced a profound loss.

The holidays drive home the fact that another year is coming to a close and someone you miss terribly has been gone that much longer. Depression rates tend to increase at the end of the year and I understand why. Like a birthday, anniversary or other special date, Hanukkah, Christmas, and other holiday celebrations leave many cold as they long to celebrate with someone who can no longer do so.

If you`re feeling blue this holiday season, you`re not alone and you should not feel as though you need to "put on a happy face" because of a date on the calendar. As we all know, it`s not that simple. Grief has no on/off switch and you have about as much control over it as the ocean tides. So, with that in mind, I`d like to propose a few things you can do this holiday season to help get you through with your sanity intact.

This holiday consider doing the following when you feel depressed or sad from a recent (or less recent) loss:

- Forgive yourself. Too often, people put time lines on their grief as though it can be compartmentalized and get angry with themselves when that doesn`t happen. You`re doing a disservice to you if you pretend things are OK when they aren`t.

- Seek out support. Many people retreat emotionally during times of emotional stress. While this is understandable, talking to people who understand (support groups are especially good) what you`re going though is more productive and will make you feel better.

- Remember. Attempting to block someone`s memory from your mind may make you feel better temporarily but their life is worth remembering if and when you`re ready. Think about some of your favorite memories (however brief a life this may have been) to honor that person and help you through. If you miscarried, there may be thoughts back to happier times to recollect when you were pregnant.

- Don`t assume anyone understands. You need to tell people how you feel and what you need if you can. If you can`t face visitors, well wishers or holiday parties, those around you need to know to help ease your stress.

This post was contributed by Kelly Kilpatrick, who writes on the subject of Nursing School. She invites your feedback at kellykilpatrick24@gmail.com

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